Wednesday, February 22, 2012

How to enjoy sex after menopause


Soon after women hit the menopause stage, they start worrying about having sex. Will it hurt? Will my appetite for sex go away?

But the reality of the matter is that women can enjoy a healthy and vigorous sex life even after menopause. Often times, the definition of 'good sex' might change post-menopause. The key lies in identifying what is pleasurable for you and how you wish to continue being sexually active. Here's how you can enjoy sex even years after hitting menopause.

Managing hormones. Soon after women hit the menopause stage, they tend to have low levels of estrogen and progesterone - the prime sex hormones. Furthermore, this can make sexual activity uncomfortable by leading to tiny tears in the vaginal walls. You can work your way around lowered hormonal balance by using lubricants, indulging in lengthier foreplay, and even some estrogen cream.

Your desire for sex may plummet because of the low levels of testosterone in your body or because of age-linked health conditions. Medically it is suggested that you should not be focused on achieving orgasm, but you should start enjoying each other's bodies and compatibility. Don't rely too much on unnecessary drugs and always make it a point to talk to your doctor before starting any new medication routine, as it may have an adverse affect on your sexual desire. Masturbating, sensual massages, kissing, cuddling and maintaining open channels of communication are all essential to revive your interest in sex life.

Masturbation can come to your rescue. Often seen as unnatural, masturbating is a self-assuring sexual activity that can be quite helpful. Infact, if you masturbate you can find your trigger points, which you can then share with your sexual partner for a better sexual relationship. Masturbation per se does not cause any health conditions. However if you do it in excess, it can be categorized as an addiction for which one might need a sexologist's help.

Sex therapy and counselling is helpful. If everything else fails, and you continue experiencing a lack of sexual desire, you can always go for sex therapy or counselling. Therapists will help you in sorting your feelings out in detail. A counsellor or therapist will help you deal with any lack of communication, insecurities and other psycosexual issues that might be hampering your sex life. They may also suggest additional strategies for dealing with sex problems, besides suggesting medical treatment.

Hormone replacement therapy. The primary aim of dealing with menopause is providing symptomatic relief and adding some zing to your sex life. It may include lifestyle changes or hormone therapy, or treatment of specific symptoms with non hormonal medications. Nowadays, hormone replacement therapy (HRT), is only suggested for women with severe symptoms and those who do not respond to other treatment modalities. Women with severe hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, or vaginal dryness should be prescribed HRT only after discussing the benefits and risks of hormone therapy.

A healthy lifestyle is a must. It is never too late to work those lethargic muscles out and feel young all over again. And, if it adds an edge to your sexual life, they why not! Strengthen your vaginal walls and pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises as it will help you in achieving better orgasm. Please note you should not perform Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while urinating. If done so, it can actually weaken the muscles as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases the risk of urinary tract infection.

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